The Dilemma of "Me Time"
Every month or so I have the following conversation with one of my girlfriends:
Friend: "Girl, how are you?"
Me: "I'm doing fine, but girl, I'm doing too much."
Friend: "Well can you take some time for yourself this weekend?"
Me: "Yea, I just need some 'me time'".
Ah yes, the amorphous concept of "me time". The problem that I have with "me time" is that I never quite know what to do with it. Well, scratch that - the REAL problem is that I feel the need to plan something during "me time" which just adds to the stress of life and causes me to feel more overwhelmed.
On my last "me" day, I took myself to the spa. I brought a book I'd been trying to read for weeks and vowed that I would stay at the spa from the time it opened until the time it closed. I also vowed that while at the spa I would finish the book, get a nap in, sit in the sauna, the hot tub, the steam room, go back to the sauna, eat some lunch, listen to a podcast and color in a coloring book. In reality, by the time I got to the nap portion of this divine plan, I was bored, so I packed it up and was home by 11:30am. So much for "me time".
If you're like me, you have the best intentions for what to do with this free time but when it comes down to it, what you really crave is a moment or two just to be. To not complete a to-do list, to not answer questions, to not make decisions. There is certainly value in taking time for yourself, but sometimes that means doing nothing. No spa, no manicure, no random perusal of store windows. Just nothing. I've found more peace doing nothing and allowing myself to recharge organically than I have when I plan some grand outing to "pamper" myself.
So here's to carving out "me time".... and to sitting on the couch and doing.absolutely.nothing (with wine, of course!). What do you do in your spare time? Share in the comments below...
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