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The Best Advice I've Received This Year...

The Best Advice I've Received This Year...

Sometimes a messenger will come and drop a nugget on you so tough that you will stop in your tracks and change course.  A friend sent me the following quote in a not-so-subtle attempt to tell me to stop trippin'.  

Yep- I'm that girl who will spin my own wheels trying to find the perfect way to do something with the least risk of blowback.  What I never seem to grasp is that trying to make everyone happy is not only exhausting but it's one of the most impossible things to do in life.  As a self-confessed people pleaser, this concept of "creating joy for everyone else but myself" is very real, very unnecessary, and very damaging.  I once spent three sleepless nights in a row (and I don't say that in jest - I really didn't sleep) obsessing over how I was going to go about planning some event so that everyone else would be comfortable and content.  In the end, the people I was most worried about being satisfied didn't even show up!  What a waste of time!

Ultimately the only two people that you are required to make happy are 1) your Maker; and 2) yourself.  If that is satisfied, isn't that enough?  When I received this advice it was just the kick in the ass that I needed to shake me out of one of these self-imposed shame spirals I often find myself in.  On the brink of obsessing endlessly about bullshit, here comes this quote - perfect and right on time.  What I take from the quote is that we all inherently understand the concept that it's not our job to make others happy, but sometimes we just have to recall that knowledge to get through...

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