Self-awareness is a quality I look for in those I choose to surround myself with. I think of self-awareness as "honesty of self." Lately I've been doing a lot of self-reflection - looking at why and how I do things to figure out how to get better. In fact, last week in a random and rare still moment in my life, a small voice whispered to me the following five words: "take a look at yourself." I was in the middle of analyzing a difficult conversation and prepared myself to place blame on the other party to conversation. And then the voice came - "take a look at yourself"...so I did.
There are times when we think we have all the answers, are always right, are blameless, and as close to perfect as possible. I'm guilty of this. Let's face it - this kind of thinking is convenient. It allows us to bolster the very best parts of ourselves by ignoring the very worst parts of ourselves. The problem with this thinking is that it negates the whole, "all humans are flawed" concept which I don't think we can disagree with.
In the moments last week when I began self-reflection, so many things were revealed to me, the most important of which is that I am quick to dismiss my own shortcomings. You see - part of being self-aware is refusing to deny every aspect of yourself, even the bad stuff. I came across this illustration that perfectly sums up my dilemma.
So here's to the still small voices that help us to shift our perspective...even if that perspective shifts to you.
Photo credit: Sydney Jackson