Laundry Room Lessons
I took my wedding vows very seriously. I put great weight on the fact that I was delivering these vows before 250 witnesses, so I ensured that I said everything I promised to do, but also threw in the one thing I just could not promise to do: his laundry. When I said, " I do not promise to do your laundry," I think most people took it as a tongue-in-cheek comment, but the truth is that I was dead ass serious. Laundry is not something that I have excelled at in life and it's not something that I wanted to work at getting better at, so I laid it out on the table.
Fast forward 16 months and one new washer/dryer set later and I have warmed up to the possibility of doing his laundry, but him?-- not so much. In a world where there are greater battles to take on, I realize that our ongoing battle about his laundry is minuscule, but it's oh.so.very.real.
You see, he is a military man - all about order and precision. He's the "divide the whites from the colors" kind of guy. I'm the "wash the towels with the undies and tennis shoes" kind of girl. So you see the dilemma... I've gotten better at separating but I am now battling with losing socks. I know this is a universal problem...so I thought. Apparently I am married to the only man in the world who has NEVER lost a sock (his allegation). So after several valiant tries and too many unnecessary "heated" discussions about the values of appropriate laundry-washing, we have come to the conclusion that I will stick to my vows and will leave his laundry to his own doing - a win-win situation! Reflecting on this mini-issue over a nice glass of wine, we realized that we learned some important lessons through this process.
First: each person in a relationship has strengths and weaknesses that must be explored and honored. I place less importance on doing a "mean load of laundry" (his phrase) than he does. Accepting that neither of us is right or wrong, we just let it be what it is and move on.
Second: small battles can become bigger battles, and what's the point in that? My admitted lack of laundry acumen (and the ruining of a few shirts and one pair of jeans to date) has caused us to butt heads a few times. We recognize that in order to avoid more distracting discussions about abilities, which can be hurtful, we may as well just find the thing that works for us. In this case, you do you and I do me!
Overall, marriage is one ongoing classroom and we are both here for all the lessons. Whether they come from bigger challenges or the mundane, there is a teachable moment in every experience...
What lessons have you and your partner learned from the mundane activities?
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