If I Had Another Wedding, Here's What I Would Do Differently
My wedding was spectacular. Like married-in-a-chateau kind of spectacular. No, seriously. I got married in a chateau. I get tickled by how grand the whole thing was and feel very grateful that we were able to have that kind of experience to celebrate our love. From time to time, however, I do wonder what I would do differently. So in no particular order, here it goes:
1. Cut the guest list. We invited close to 300 people to our wedding and about 240 showed up. It was wonderful to have that many people there to love and support us, but in hindsight, we should have saved the stamp on some of those invites. My mom always says that "you only invite people to your wedding who you are willing to hand a $100 bill to." Needless to say, some people we may have only been willing to give $20 and should have thought twice...
2. Upgraded to better food. Our caterer had two options for the menu. We opted for the more cost-effective of the two, but if we would have cut our guest list down it would have fit in the budget to have the better food. Don't get me wrong, the food we had was wonderful (hello, risotto!!!), but short ribs with shrimp and grits still makes my mouth water!
3. Been smarter about shoes. 1 week before the wedding I decided that my gorgeous Badgley Mischka shoes pinched my feet. I made a shoe switch immediately. The new shoes were more comfortable, but I convinced myself that the extra half inch on the heel would not make a difference in the dress hemline. I'm sure no one else noticed it, but all I see when I look at the photo albums is that little hemline faux pas and I wish I would have just endured the pinching since the hemline was fit to that shoe in the first place.
4. Wait a week before the honeymoon. We left the Monday after our Saturday wedding for a 2 week trip to Napa and Maui. If we had to do it again, I would have suggested that we wait a week and then go (my sister friend K actually did suggest this to me and I should have taken her advice). The truth is - if you go immediately, you don't have enough time after the wedding to reflect on the wedding, so you rush off to the honeymoon (e.g. hubby rushed so much he left key items like his sunglasses and swim trunks) and then TWO WEEKS LATER, you have this horrible deflating feeling and have to reflect on both at the same time. I swear it's like post partum depression for brides! I would have gone to work for a week, reflected on the wedding, built up excitement about the honeymoon, then gone on the trip.
5. Driven away after the send off to get a burger. We stayed in the chateau the night of our wedding (which was kind of amazing) so after the sparkler exit, we just sort of went around the corner and back into the chateau and said goodbye to our guests. We should have jumped in his car and driven to McDonald's and had french fries...
6. Had a band instead of a DJ. Our DJ was fine, but I think there's a novelty in having a band that can cover everything.
7. Had a drink. I was nervous the entire day and night worried that things weren't going to go off perfectly. We actually were both so nervous that we drank water all night! I probably would have calmed down if I drank some champagne!
8. Taken more pictures before the wedding. We took photos after the wedding for 1 hour. It allowed our guests to have fun at the cocktail hour, but it just delayed the fun for us.
Some things I would not change: Marrying my guy, skipping the bouquet toss (it's cheesy), not doing a first look (his expression was priceless - see below), our first dance song.
What about you? What would you change or do differently?