Another year, another fresh start! I typically make New Year's resolutions, many of which I end up ditching about halfway through the year. This year, I've decided to abandon the word "resolution" because it sounds so final! Instead, I am setting some "goals" because that just seems more like a milestone rather than a final destination. In no particular order, here they are:
1. Finish the book. Newsflash: the chapters are all outlined and I think it will basically write itself, but I just need to commit to putting my butt in the chair and doing the work. Those who know me best are rolling their eyes because I set this goal for myself every year, and every year I seem to fall short. But why not just put it on the list again this year and see what happens, eh?
2. Change my perspective on success. This one is huge for me. I have been secretly battling this overwhelming sense that I am failing in every aspect of my life. Seriously. But I had this moment of clarity last week when I decided to redefine what "success" is. It's easy to look at where others are in life and what they've accomplished and feel mediocre. But the problem with that theory is that it's entirely based on things that really have nothing to do with you. So instead of measuring my success by where I think I should be because of where someone else is, I will spend time thinking about success in terms of small wins and things that actually matter.
3. Make better choices. Instead of setting a weight loss goal, I will just aim to make better choices. After all, my real downfall when it comes to the seesaw of weight loss is my food intake. Working out isn't my issue. It's french fries. And queso. And pasta. So instead of putting an actual number down (although I have one in my head), I will just aim to choose the healthier option when it comes to meal planning. After all, when I really stop eating crap, I see results.
4. Affirm my husband more. The other day Hassan mentioned that while he tells me multiple times a day that I am beautiful or wonderful (he does), he can often go a day without hearing a compliment from me. He wasn't coming from a place of insecurity when he said it, he was simply making an observation. That made me sad because it's not at all a reflection of how I feel. I often look at him and gain strength in just knowing that I have a willing and equal partner in life. I also find joy in the ease of his smile or the beautiful shade of his brown skin. Perhaps I take it for granted that he knows the depths of my love and feelings for him, but I won't allow that to be an excuse anymore.
5. Be a better person. For me it means answering the phone instead of letting calls roll to voicemail, or not breaking eye contact with an estranged friend when I see them in the grocery store. It also means making an effort to impact someone else's life in a meaningful way. And while this goal may seem rather vague, can't we all subscribe to this one?